Finn Deerhart and Sam Sebastian have been together for three years. They were both tired of hookup cultures and unattainable body standards. So they decided to do something about it. Through coaching, workshops, and community events, Finn and Sam teach gay, bisexual, and transgender men how to relate to each other as full, sexy, sensual humans, not just sex objects. By simply being, Finn and Sam model vulnerability and deep connection for queer men.
Will I look good in my photos? Are you going to ask me to do things I’m not comfortable with? Do I have to look a certain way?
All of those are legitimate concerns that my clients bring up on a regular basis when we talk about a photo shoot.
In practice, I’ve found that when I incorporate four key principles into my shoots, those concerns melt away, and my clients have a fantastic experience. Let’s talk about those.
A photo shoot can be nerve-wracking at the best of times, and an intimate shoot even more so. So why would anyone choose to do such a thing? I decided to ask a few of my previous clients and share what I found with you. Perhaps you’ll resonate with some of these reasons too, or you’ll find some different reasons of your own.
A photo shoot is a vulnerable experience, and can bring up all kinds of fears and concerns for everyone. Women in particular have a few common ones that come up when I talk to clients, and I’d like to address those in this post.
I was on a free consultation call with a potential client. She was super excited to book her shoot. Before the call ended, I asked her if she had any questions or concerns.
She said, “I don’t have anything sexy to wear, like lingerie and stuff. I mean, I might have some in a closet somewhere, but I haven’t fit in it in a long time!”
I asked her, “Do you have other fun things that you enjoy wearing, like … a loose sweater, for instance?”
Her voice sounded a bit skeptical, “A loose sweater. Um … really?”
All I could say was: “Trust me and bring it with you, you’ll love it.”